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Hey, don’t insult fart gobblers

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Ok I can’t see if I got the formatting right on jerboa so lmk if that looks good

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If you’re trans in the US and you don’t have a gun, you have more courage than I’ll ever have

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Funny enough this isn’t true where I come from. In my native dialect, a person of unknown gender is referred to as “he”, a fact I vehemently defended before I discovered that I was trans (because being referred to as he hurts less if it’s a gender neutral pronoun)

Boy was that some stuff to unlearn

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Language that accommodates you by default is great. Last time I visited Mexico all I had to do to reveal my pronouns was to refer to myself and my wife as “nosotras”. And then everyone refers to us as “amigas” and you feel so in-place.

Rare circumstance when being a trans lesbian is a benefit lmao

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You make some good points, and I don’t mean to invalidate anything you say but the emotions are running hot right now so hopefully this take comes out reasonable.

  1. I think there’s something to be said for not looking back too much. Lots of terrible things in the past that are best left alone.

  2. Philosophically, who are we but a culmination of our experiences? Is the concept of the self as a discrete unit meaningful? If we were to go back and change the past, would that result in the me of today being different person? Well, in my eyes, every day I wake up a different person - only a shadow of who I was the previous day remains anyway. So hypothetically, personally, changing the past doesn’t destroy “me” in a way I’d find too meaningfully substantial

3. Lots of trauma in the past.

Abusive household. Lost all my friends when I came out. And now the only people I can truly relate to are people who I talk to over the internet. I hardly know how to socialize face to face. Almost died from self harm.

If I could erase all this trauma, if I could have a community that I could meet face to face, and be comfortable in the body I lived in, would this not be better?

possible internalized transphobia

Are we just inventing rationalizations for why we’re happy where we are because we can’t change it?

Ultimately it’s moot because we can’t change it. Live with what you’ve got and look ahead to make the future the best one you can have.

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Well, I posted a screenshot of this post to r/starwarsleftymemes, inshallah I don’t get banned

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You joke, but Japan hasn’t even been allowed to have their own military since WWII. They barely are a separate nation.

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Just checked, it looks like it’s fiber. Definitely has something plugged into the wall anyway - I’m kinda afraid of unplugging it and ruining my internet access.

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