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I appreciate this tip, however I still feel as though it is difficult to break into social circles like this. I have considerable anxiety related to meeting people
the people doing Friday night magic at your local game store often have the same social discomforts and anxieties, trust me
Plus, the point of these activities isn’t just to be in a situation where there other people. The shared activity gives an easy topic of discussion and a distraction from the social effort. You just play the game/do the thing and it happens naturally.
I do sincerely appreciate the encouragement. I dont want to seem contrarian but just even finding these groups feels out of reach. Everyone says just join a group but literally I dont understand how to find said groups. Might be my own inability but it is terribly isolating to be in a city alone. Edit: I also dont play games like magic. Ill play other board games though.
The steps to get involved in it aren’t complicated (I keep harping on a game store because it’s what I do personally).
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Use this site to find one near you https://www.localgamestores.com/
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Pick one and look at its event schedule
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Go to something described as beginner friendly
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Give it your best effort; no one is judging you
It won’t be easy, but it will be simple. If you’ve come here asking, you understand that you need to make a behavioral change to improve your social life. This is it. It requires effort and commitment.
Do you mind if I message you in a few days to ask if you’ve followed up on this?
Do you have a friend/sibling to join in? Everyone is as nervous as you are.
I’ve moved around quite a bit the last 10 years, all the friends I’ve made are people I share common interests with. Try and find people who like the same movies/tv/books/sports teams/ideology. Is there a DSA? I’ve been there, it’s lonely, and it takes work to find friends.
