In Relationships.
I’ve been told that all people in an Adultery are equally unethical & blameful. I don’t agree with this; i believe the upholding of exclusivity is incumbent on people in relationships, not those without.
in other words, if someone with a marriage ring is trying to bang you, its not your responsibility to chastise them & make sure they respect their partner.
i’m curious what other people think & any radical theory on the constitution of relationships, this stuff is very interesting to me
It would happen anyway. If not me, then it’ll be with the next person. Rip the band-aid off. If someone’s willing to cheat just because you hit on them then clearly the relationship wasnt built to last.
“If I don’t steal your house, someone else will” - a viral video from like a month ago. Not participating in the cheating is basic human decency and basic not being a piece of shit. It’s for your own integrity as much as it is for this common empathy and sympathy for someone else’s plight
“If I don’t become a landlord someone else will therefore I should just do it anyway” is a really poor justification. You still hurt people by what you are doing. It is still unethical and bad and you can instead just not do it.
Someone else being an asshole doesn’t mean that you have justification to be an asshole too.
Certainly true is some cases, but not all. I mean it’s definitely not a good sign for a relationship, but I bet there are people who cheat due to a bizarre circumstance, and realize it was a terrible mistake and wish to stay in a relationship. Probably also lots of people cheat with exes, rather than just being randomly hit on
Yeah, of course those people exist, but they can learn from their actions and grovel for forgiveness. It’s their fault. Again, if all it takes is a bizarre scenario then there was something lacking in the relationship. I don’t think cheating often comes from a total moral failing, it’s because there’s something lacking in the relationship. Doesn’t mean the victim of cheating is to blame though.
Yeah I mean as much as you sound callous and assholeish, I gotta admit you have a very good point. Cheating ruined my parent’s relationship and made my childhood consequently very difficult; in retrospect I wish the divorce had happened the first time, however, because ultimately we were all better off not being together as a family, are all much happier now for it. The problems didn’t go away when the cheating did, they just resurfaced elsewhere until ultimately it happened again. I still blame the cheater, and to a much lesser extent the partner, but I’m growing past living in blame and anger like that: shit happens and people do bad things when they are unhappy people.
