In Relationships.
I’ve been told that all people in an Adultery are equally unethical & blameful. I don’t agree with this; i believe the upholding of exclusivity is incumbent on people in relationships, not those without.
in other words, if someone with a marriage ring is trying to bang you, its not your responsibility to chastise them & make sure they respect their partner.
i’m curious what other people think & any radical theory on the constitution of relationships, this stuff is very interesting to me
I’ve been told that all people in an Adultery are equally unethical & blameful
Not equally blameful, but both blameful.
The person in the relationship has at least a tacit personal commitment to treat their partner respectfully, value them and not lie or cheat on them. They are most responsible.
But as the third, you are participating in treating another human like trash. You are blameworthy. This blame increases to the degree that you are acquainted with the person being cheated on. Never met>acquaintance/coworker>friend>good friend.
But yeah, if you participate in treating somebody like shit you have to own that. None of this “but if I wasn’t doing it somebody else would” bourgeois bullshit. That’s the excuse for basically every evil in human history. You have a responsibility to act morally and treat other humans with respect. You choose to do so or not, but you don’t get to pretend it’s not your responsibility.
Edit: just to clarify I’m not on some high horse - I have cheated on people before, I just own my responsibility in that choice.
