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Women: Where do you draw the line between flattering/enticing and creepy?

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AlephNull [she/her]@hexbear.net
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Social context and personal intimacy? If it’s inappropriate for the environment or we just plain dont know each other?

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Nakoichi [they/them]@hexbear.net
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I’m assuming the latter, in which case I typically (in general not specifically flirting) try to complement people on aesthetic choices, e.g. how they do their nails, their jewelry, complement their choice of hair color or the way it’s cut/styled.

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AlephNull [she/her]@hexbear.net
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Ay bb lemme see those toenails

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Nakoichi [they/them]@hexbear.net
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lmao I just belly laughed at this

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kristina [she/her]@hexbear.net
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:spongebob-dry:

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BeamBrain [he/him]@hexbear.netOP
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I believe Aleph was phrasing her answer as a question, with the first part being how she judges and the second part being examples of creepy behavior.

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AlephNull [she/her]@hexbear.net
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Yeah sorry for the ambiguity, “the line” would be the social context and personal intimacy I guess.

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AlephNull [she/her]@hexbear.net
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I neither know people nor flirt

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MaoTheLawn [any, any]@hexbear.net
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Depends on environment. If someone’s playing eyeball tennis with you in a bar then you’re fairly clear to go over and introduce yourself. Just don’t be overbearing and don’t hang around for long.

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