I’m even tugging to restore my foreskin but at least 90% of the movement is creepy weirdos like this
So there’s a history between you two that I don’t have context for, and maybe I’m just seeing it from too limited an exposure. I’ll acknowledge that.
Yet I still think you’re missing the point. I agree, fgm is generally speaking worse in terms of quantity of harm done. However, at least when I’ve heard the argument, people aren’t making a direct equivalence in terms of harm done. They are saying that the practice of genital mutilation, regardless of gender, violates bodily autonomy in the same way.
This is kind of a shitty analogy so I apologize in advance, but we can think of it like speeding. If someone is going 60 in a 40 zone, that’s reckless endangerment and bad/condemnable. Going 100 in a 40 zone is worse for sure, but it’s ‘bad’ for the same reasons/in the same way. It’s still reckless endangerment, so it’s violating the same moral imperative. In the case of reckless driving it’s an obligation to behave in a way that doesn’t put other lives in an unreasonable amount of danger. In the case of genital mutilation it’s a violation of bodily autonomy and performance of non-medically productive procedures.
Now I know you could say “but sometimes male circumcision IS medically useful.” I know very well, my little brother was circumcised when he was 16 because he had too tight of foreskin. That’s not what we’re talking about here nor in context of the greater conversation, though. We’re talking about the standard practice of genital mutilation at birth, long before the patient has the wherewithal to give consent or even to realize there’s a problem that might need medical attention.
Again, admitting that I lack the context from your previous discussion, it seemed like you were confusing the point of arguments that compare the two. I’ve mostly heard it in the moral context, so that’s the angle I looked at the exchange from.
Yes, and I get the bodily autonomy argument, and I agree on that level, but I think it’s where you start to see this grand difference in anti-circumcision arguments.
I think the reasonable part of the argument is like, respect bodily autonomy. I get that. But these fucking anti-circumcision activists, and literally 99% of them are guys who are worried about foreskins, will try to argue that penile circumcision is JUST AS BAD as vaginal circumcision. And that’s what I’m reacting to. Poorly worded? Absolutely. Unclear? 100%. The problem is I have a History with some of these assholes so I already know where they’re at and I’m meeting them on our previous battlefield, so I get how that can come off.
Like I have a dick, I don’t have a vagina, but I know that my sexual enjoyment is diminished. To the level of your average recipient of vaginal circumcision? GOD NO. But then that’s where these guys will pull out these insane studies about actually how people who have had their clitorises excised really don’t mind it all that much and still feel sexual pleasure! While at the same time bemoaning the chitinous layer of skin on their glans like it’s a missing limb or some shit.
It’s a highly toxic community and I’m not part of it for myriad reasons. There’s a main one though.
Yeah I feel that. I guess I’ve learned to mostly shrug at that as human nature. We seem predisposed to exaggerate the importance of our own experiences. I for one see more voices speaking out against male circumcision as a net positive all the same. Very few people are going to seriously reconsider their attitudes towards fgm based on the situation as you’ve described it. Most people already find it revolting, and the people who are likely to perpetrate it aren’t going to be in a niche anti-circumcision community to begin with lol, so they’re not going to be emboldened either.
But if the community makes enough noise, and the good arguments have a chance to shine without being knee-jerk belittled, then it seems like more people will become increasingly aware of the harms of male circumcision with relatively few downsides in terms of fgm.
I’m just thinking out loud now, but I almost see criticizing communities like that as punching down, or useless purity testing. Like, the people who end up there are wrestling with a feeling of loss and victimization. They are in a vulnerable state and looking for a way to have their feelings validated. Yeah that’s sometimes going to happen in a problematic way, but they are all genuinely in pain and trying to use it to affect positive change. As long as they don’t really have power such that their problematic trauma coping is going to reduce efforts to combat fgm, I don’t see the point in policing how they rationalize their personal motivations for being a part of the anti-circumcision movement, if it can be called as much.
I feel like as a member of the community (at least as someone who has had a deep circumcision and is undoing its effects) that I retain rights to criticize it. I mean maybe I’m not a member because I refuse to take part in their weird misogyny and Islamophobia and shit, but I think that their attempts to compare penile to vaginal circumcision in terms of pain is such a bad move. The point is to talk about bodily autonomy and argue from that position.
