it’s relatively easy for me to meet people online, but there’s only so much i can get out of virtual friendships anymore.
Yep ever since I moved for my job I have completly given up on IRL social contacts. Like I have none at all, but those few hours that I’m not exhausted on a weekend I’m not going to spend them in a bar hoping to strike a conversation. I’m in one of the most conservative regions in the country so organizing is almost impossible and I hate sports with a passion.
The same with dating. The social expectation around here is still that the first 20 steps must be initiated by the man. Running into a lot of rejection while putting all that effort in is at least for me much more unhealthy than just staying alone. Not that I would blame women like an incel, it just always puts me into a bad place. :what-the-hell:
it’s actual effort to go out “cold calling” like that. People talk about it like it’s supposed to be fun but it’s worse than work sometimes. I really do feel much more comfortable just staying alone, it can actually feel peaceful occasionally which is rare these days I feel.
Dating is such a cringe annoying affair tbh. I really want more feminism so that dating isn’t just the weird zone where patriarchal rules still apply. And dating apps are just so weird. I don’t have time or money to go on a bunch of dates or try to screen out people who are just there for a hook-up.
