I’m not sure it’s really qualified as theory, but if you’re a cishet man reading this thread, a parent especially, I’d highly recommend “How to raise a feminist son” by Sonora Jha.

As someone with a redpilled ex living in the imperial core I’ve been struggling with how to work through that and that book helped me a lot. She talks a lot about how she engaged with media over the course of raising her son and how she repurposed even stories that reinforce patriarchy as a way to introduce critical thinking. It has a specific anecdote that I resonated with quite strongly where she went to see a film with her son he had seen prior and she caught him watching to see her reaction to see if she saw what he did. Sort of a common practice in my own family to be honest.