Edit: Don’t just downvote and run away, make your liberalism known. If you have an issue with either of these, please let them be known in the comments. C’mon, let’s duke it out. :)
For the libs shouting “but muh anonymity”, you should have zero issue using the “any pronoun” tag as you will be addressed with any pronouns regardless of whether or not you have it set. The point of having them sitewide is for everyone to use them to normalize explicitly stating one’s pronouns as a means of not forcing trans people to request to be addressed with basic respect. The amount of pushback on a meaningful step toward trans inclusivity in this community is pretty fucking disheartening, not gonna lie.
Folks seem to be using the NSFW tag for the spoiler effect on memes, and while it’s a funny use of it, it’s causing the intended use of the NSFW tag to lose its value. This isn’t r/WatchPeopleDie. Personally, I was exposed to that sort of content at a younger age and am desensitized to it now, but not everyone is like me in that regard and I’m probably more fucked up than I like to think for having been as exposed to it as I was. We currently don’t have another way of tagging content, so please be considerate and put “[NSFL]” or content warnings in the title so people know they’ll be looking at some heavy shit. Not a lot to ask. Please do not start ironically putting “[NSFL]” or other content warnings in the post title. You’re more creative than that, I promise.
I agree with you on your end goal of everyone using it for everyone else. But other people exist. They have genders and should get to use their pronouns. If you want to move towards everyone using those pronouns for everyone you need to start with normalizing people who are not you saying “refer to me as they/them” and the more people do that, the more other people realize that that’s even an option and the more people that will choose it. Normalization can start here with that.
I am also a gender abolitionst. So i can see what you are saying. I am quite sure that normalizing preffered pronouns (especially non-binary) weakens the binary, which still exists, is all pervasive and needs to be dismantled before we can get to gender abolition. Yes its still just trying to “do” gender differently, but it is a step forward that I believe helps erode the connection between gender and identity in general. If you can just change it on the fly it, it helps people understand its just a construct you exist within rather than something integral to human existence. It being normal to do so (everybody doing it) makes that happen faster. Putting pronouns does more to undermine gender and challenge the world than people being able to assume your pronouns are he/him.
