Our society assumes that the default everywhere, even online, is cis male

I didn’t disagree with that, since you brought up appearance again, I restated my point that no one misgenders based on appearance if they can’t see your appearance, making it less of a trans issue and more of a women’s issue, as far as I can tell.

Instead of saying why you disagree or what I missed you’re just saying you disagree in a general sense.

From this thread:

It’s transphobic to say I don’t give a fuck? Which is literally how I feel sometimes when I’m really angry at the world. I’m not even accepted as a woman by a lot of other trans people and it’s transphobic and so awful and makes us so marginalized and when someone doesn’t go to their profile and selects something from the drop down menu?

am also trans and i fucking hate it that we have to poison even the internet with gender. we already have it in every single human interaction irl why can’t the web remain anonymous?

I deal with dysphoria. I don’t present in public because I’m uncomfortable and I feel judged. The entire conversation about pronouns, especially pressuring, if not outright forcing me to define them is insensitive at best, and harmful to my mental health at worst. So I’m not sorry. FUCK you for demanding I adhere to your standards because your standards are harmful to my mental health.

If you’d like I can post some arguments I made previously, or you can just check my post history, but either way it’s clear that people have provided valid reasons for pushing back at this point.