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I am a normal, fit and generally happy man in a healthy and loving LTR with a secure job and a robust group of interesting friends AMA

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IDK this whole men on this site need advice thing has convinced me that people here really think this isn’t a safe place to ask questions about how to, IDK, be?. So ask them here I guess if you didn’t ask them in the other thread.

I’m drunk and going to sleep now, but I have the day off tomorrow and will sincerely commit to effort-posting responses if anyone has genuine questions they want some in depth advice to.

I will say I’m just a guy who thinks he has enough trips around the sun to have some insight to share but I am not an authority on anything, so anyone else please feel free to chime in

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what part of that do you think is applicable to people trying to start new relationships?

What part of what?

when you say friend do you mean acquaintance or do you mean somebody who would travel an inconvenient distance to attend your funeral if you had an unfortunate accident in 15 years?

Both? I have both of those.

how should an outsider approach integration into this friend group?

Be kind, interesting, have common interests, meet one of us and want to meet more of us

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