The energy that would be redirected towards the family in destructive ways. Their imagined golden age, the 50s, were replete with guys with essentially their same attitudes who would come home from work as an accountant at the screen door factory, drink a bunch of liquor and then do horrifying shit to their wives and kids. A lot of the core of the incel complaint seems to be that conditions no longer let them live the same way. It’s true we didn’t hear from those guys back then, but we also didn’t hear from their victims