How do you feel when a guy is kind of clingy and possesive? I’m the jealous type and I get suspicious and anxious women im dating or want to date don’t message or text me back right away.
I often wonder if I have some type of borderline personality disorder, im so immediately afraid of abandonment. Like immediately I assume the worst if I’m not messaged or texted back right away.
Erroneous and somewhat misogynistic thought often says that women are the ones who are clingy, im here to tell you this is not the case lol. I’m just as clingy and workable moreso than any women I’ve me
I’ve gotten some good advice in other threads I’ve made, but I’ll be more specific here.
I could definitely be projecting but I think this is a result of internet brain. You get used to the dopamine kick from all the constant little notifications and so when you don’t get an immediate response your brain thinks something is wrong.
For me, the solution is to spend less time online/texting and just call people when I want a reply. I also sometimes get overwhelmed texting people back so I try to remind myself that there are plenty of other people who feel the same way.
if I didn’t reply instantly to your 400 texts in a row what makes you think I have free time for something as interruptive and intrusive as a phone call? that better be an emergency, not a habit of boredom/anxienty.
