I have come to suspect the proportion of Trans/GNC and even Gay people in the population is actually much higher and only modestly correlated with Autism and ADHD. Those traits simply make being Trans something that you simply can’t mask forever.
There’s probably a huge mass of neurotypicals just miserable, but smothered under the weight of their vulnerability to social pressure.
I agree with this 100%. The amount of demi-gender-adjacent people who just identify as cis is substantial, at the very least. But the whole “what if I told you there was a pill that could turn you into the opposite gender” routine is a kind of cliche for a reason. A lot of people just do not have the language to express this aspect of themselves.
The amount of demi-gender-adjacent people who just identify as cis is substantial
Lol this might actually be me. I’m amab and while I’m not 100% comfortable with the word “man”, I’m like 95% there so I just continue to id as cis out of convivence.
I get that, I think. I basically have a few people close to me who know I identify as trans and everyone else just thinks I’m a man who dresses “weird”.
I’ve considered microdosing E, but really don’t want to risk the erectile dysfunction and I don’t think testosterone gives me enough distress that I need HRT. I just… like the idea of all the effects except for breast growth and fantasize about them occasionally. :trans-egg:
Even dressing in a clearly GNC way, people day to day don’t question whether I’m cis. So that’s just a privilege I need to keep in mind when venting to other trans people sometimes. But I’ve never had a trans person be upset at me claiming the label, which was something I worried a lot about at first. As if being an AMAB demi-guy wasn’t “far away” enough from my AGAB to count.
But yeah, if it’s just in your head to start, if you’re not comfortable calling yourself a “man”, you can make the decision to not do that. Not gonna act like that’s a trivial change, but it’s one that gave me a lot of comfort. Calling myself a man, I was of the ways that I wasn’t like other men. Calling myself non-binary, I’m proud of who I am. Doesn’t solve everything, but it’s night and day.
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