Oh boy
I guess my irl opinion when it comes to marriage is controversial (I believe it hasn’t really been deconstructed since it’s inception and is problematic for a number of reasons), but I’m curious whether anyone shares the same thoughts. Like finding your forever person? 100%
Everything else associated with it like the status symbol, doing it just to do it, inconsistent sharing of responsibilities? No good imo
Could be my autistic brain taking over, but I truly cannot comprehend why something like this needs to be in writing to be “official”
Idk I’m opinionated and sometimes my opinions suck and I need someone to bring me back to reality
Maybe, or maybe you have a problem with toxic institutions on the whole (I also think monogamy can be considered a toxic institution). Which…you definitely should hah. I think marriage is often a highly toxic institution, so I think your gut instinct here is sound.
I’m experienced with both marriage (xx years) and polyamory (x years) though so I’m happy to let you bounce ideas off me if that’ll help :)
I appreciate that! I think what sort of prompted this thought was deconstructing my patriarchal upbringing. And I don’t fault my parents for the way they raised me, but I view it as something to learn from if I ever decide to have kids of my own, and I guess marriage crossed my mind in this context
