I do think that extremism is counter-productive, it uses fallacious arguments and generally only generates more violence.
but violence has already been generated against us, why is it bad when we use it to end that violence?
Because instead we can spend the energy into the development of social-democracy, which has a better track record.
Extremists get shit done. When was the last time voting ever solved anything?
It regularly does, social-democracy seems to generally ensure better living condition to its people. I don’t see any extreme left or right regime that provided better conditions than social-democracies.