Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.
So I got a lot of upvotes for my request for you all to help the many organisations ready willing and able to accept your support. But no comments. Someone has downvoted a lot of comments, like gone through my profile clicking. I mean it’s very petty but this is the crap we endure and it’s often after tv programs like the one which aired the other night. I won’t reference it but my family members watched and it was a bit of a witch hunt. Now I have to waste time I should be chilling out in writing about it, challenging the garbage with family.
Racism gets squashed and called out for very good reason, but transphobes are allowed “an opinion” and people do not much to help. Getting my pronouns right will not help my friend obtain full time work. Being an “ally” means fighting alongside us in my opinion. The organisations will have much more measured dialogue, but I don’t represent any of them. I volunteer with one of them, but I’m not allowed to speak on their behalf and am not bound by the same codes of ethics their paid staff are. I can’t change this thing about myself any more than someone can change their heritage. Would you call someone out for saying disparaging things about a Yinnar man with very pale skin like one of my friends?
It’s a serious issue world wide and people calling themselves “allies” just comes across as them feeling sorry for us a lot of the time. People still think we have a choice in the matter but the reality is you either allow yourself the incredible personal honesty required in the face of discrimination or you slowly die. 37% of young transgender people have attempted suicide, that’s just the young ones who have been surveyed. but many many of us spend years thinking about it before diagnosis. Ask me how I know?
So, no one commented on my post about helping my community. I think I gave very clear options. Is everyone just going to sit on their hands? Plenty of upvotes but you see why I say people are all talk. I give people options to make a real difference and it’s crickets.
I’m not angry or disappointed and this is not attacking anyone, we all have capacities and I don’t expect people to drop everything to help. I wish I didn’t need to have to explain all this stuff, but I feel obligated to. And just so you’re aware, I was a volunteer being realising I was trans. I recognised something needed to be done and stepped up. I’m done, I have to go to work. Thx for reading… especially my downvoter, wasting your time is a privilege.
so many many big hugs,
it’s so hard to work for freedoms and rights and better lives, and at the end of a week we are exhausted and we see no change
and it’s perfectly right to be angry , but be angry at the abusers
there are so many things in society that need changing, so many people who need help, not just here but all over the world
no one can do it all, not even the most powerful people in the world can do it all, they can barely do anything
but together if we all do something, if we do anything, then the world will be a better place
I’m not angry with anyone here. Just left feeling alienated. The mods have been great. I think my point is valid and I’m definitely not the only trans person who feels like this. This was my original point about allies made kinda clear, many of feel like this honestly. I understand and stated I understand most people are already at capacity. But just getting people’s pronouns right while nice and respectful isn’t doing much either and we’ve had to fight for that. I can’t keep bitching here though, this whole exchange has made me realise I don’t care for this place as much I once did. The fact is I’m the only person who is openly talking about being trans here and someone keeps downvoting ONLY my content. See above.
I get you’re angry and frightened - and with good bloody reason - but that post didn’t invite commentary. Anyone who signed up new for those org would have done so off lemmy. Anyone who already works with them wouldn’t have commented about it - that’s rather ironically virtue signalling. There was literally nothing that required further discussion.
You’re complaining about a lack of visibility that wasn’t called for.
I’m not frightened, I refuse to live in fear of bigots. I don’t agree with what you’ve written. I have a right to vent here too. If you were targeted you too would ne left feeling alienated if you felt no one could bother to respond. And almost no one has.
Venting’s fine, we all do it, but it’s like there’s a huge chunk of the conversation you’re having that’s missing to the DT.
Ok what most peeps on the thread see:
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removed keeps gunning for your arse.
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Nath trying to work out who they are and deal with them
That’s one thing.
Then
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You post some good trans resources / ways to help the comm for anyone interested in supporting peeps after a shitty fucking hit piece by MSM. Awesomesauce
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You…yelling at no one responding to a post that didn’t call for response and had meaningful action leading out and away from the discussion thread entirely? wait, what?
Nah.
You don’t get to just blanket admonish us like that.
You have no idea what we do or don’t do to support people who are trans. You have no idea if we are sitting on our hands. You have no idea if we are “all talk”.
Trans struggle isn’t the only struggle going on right now.
Trans issues aren’t the number one priority for everyone.
You aren’t angry, disappointed, or on the attack? You don’t want us to drop everything to comment, volunteer or donate?
Then why did you post this diatribe?
I support you and the Trans community endlessly, but I cannot safely volunteer at those organisations nor put myself within the Trans community. I fear my ex is there, somewhere, and I know they transitioned (mtf) after we broke up; they raped, gaslit, and abused me in every way imaginable for 8 years. I cannot be a volunteer I’m sorry, but I’ll be here supporting your journey, offsetting every downvote you get. You are amazing, and resilient, strong for posting this in the face of constant micro-aggressions and discriminations. You have my love always. I’m sorry I cannot do more than be a keyboard warrior for you.
