In short, I’m miserable, lonely, and broke. I need to get the fuck out of California and into someplace with rent less than $1000 a month. I also need to find a job that gets me like $25 an hour. I’m good at data entry and formwork and I have a really great voice I have no idea what to do with. I have absolutely no clue what I’m doing and I suck ass at all the important parts of being a person, and all the people who try to help me can’t help me or I don’t get it because I got the full power of the spectrum radiating inside of my forebrain and it’s fucking me up.

I’ve tried budgeting with spreadsheets and it doesn’t work for me. I’ve tried looking for work but it’s a brand new hell every time I open the browser. I hate this. I fucking hate that mental illness fucked me up when I was supposed to figure out my life and now that I’m finding a bit of peace within myself I still have to contend with all the things everyone else has to do and recognizes as shitty but somehow get done while I just suck ass at everything.

Help me.

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14 points

Homeless, living in supportive housing, living with parents, inheritance, or staying in constant burnout turning over job after job til the very end

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I feel this in my bones. 4 jobs in the past 4 years. Make it through the first few months feeling like it will be different. Eventually burnout and function poorly until I am laid off or it’s so overwhelming I quit. Rinse and repeat.

Trying to work and finish my degree now, but my job is so soul sucking I counterintuitively stay up way too late at night trying to disassociate from my current existence through videos and weed

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For me every job starts out okay but after a few years working conditions deteriorate to the point I am falling apart and crying daily. I came to my current job to escape stress and of course it took just two years to ramp up to psyche-breaking levels.

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I just mentioned this in another comment to MattsAlt; I have never lasted at a job for more than 3 years in the past 20 of my working life. I get so extremely hostile to the idea of work, or feel just absolutely bored to tears. In the past few years though, the burnout has reached the levels you’re describing. It seems that’s the case for MattsAlt as well, I guess it must be common to job hop like this?

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Oof. Yep. Currently (luckily) in a job with a ton of hybrid flexibility and I am currently burning out hard. Idk if it’s better or worse that I have this freedom as opposed to the structure of a normal 9-5, actually. But I am so mentally checked out from my work it’s insane. I’ll just nap after appointments. I still get essentially the same amount of work done as other people, but yeah I am hanging by a thread here. I haven’t been riding my bike, hanging out with people, going to shows, none of my normal things. Just sitting scrolling for weeks. I took a whole month off of work not that long ago, either. Started to get a bit of good mood/motivation for hobbies back but as soon as work started again, it all crumbled.

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This is my experience right on down to the time off from work. The one thing that has been moderately helpful (besides therapy) is learning to stop scrolling. You eventually get bored if you don’t let yourself reach for the phone and then you’re sort of forced to confront that boredom by doing literally anything else.

For a while that anything else was mostly naps for me, but eventually that got boring, too, and now I’m interested in my hobbies again. It’s hard because the phone makes burnout easier to deal with, but the constant sensory input also prolongs your recovery.

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This could be a copy paste of conversations I had with friends while I was at my last job.

I thought an in person role would help keep me working but instead I just doomscroll at my desk while doing the bare minimum.

Does your burnout really get going around the time you start to feel the job is bullshit? I can’t tell if that is a symptom of or the inspiring event to mine, but it’s a constant fixture I’ve noticed looking back at all my experiences with burnout.

I’ve read that it takes about 3 weeks to start fully recovering from work via vacation. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to take one that long, at least voluntarily. Last layoff I was out of work for about a month and was the most stressed I’ve ever been. I hate this country

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