That’s completely understandable. From what it sounds like you’re the breadwinner (or bringing in a substantial portion of the income) while also having to be in charge of the budget and act as the bad guy in denying non-essentials. Plus doing the lions share of the housework and childcare, and caring for your husband.

With what time and energy are you supposed to exercise daily into a bikini body? You’re carrying your entire family on your back.

Whenever you feel guilt or think you’re being grumpy Google ‘the mental load’ and ‘the second shift’

Edit: also ‘the triple burden’. Though it’s more even than that