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It was my partner’s birthday yesterday and I made him a playlist called songs that convey how I feel about you.
He listens to one song on the playlist and tells me it was a pretty solid playlist. However, regarding the two heartfelt Taylor Swift songs on the hour-long playlist, he tells me I should switch them out for insert other songs that do not convey the same meaning as the Taylor Swift songs at all because they were “better”. He didn’t listen to the songs.
Maybe he’s just not a lyrics person, though I’d think the title would convey that the lyrics are important. It sucks that I’ll have to explain that and also that we are probably not on the same wavelength. I’m debating ending it.
I’m just gonna point out the playlist you made was called ‘songs that convey how I feel about you’… so yeah. Also the reception is kinda graceless.
You mentioned things are still pretty early on though. It might be that he’s uncomfortable with the romantic messages, trying to softpedal that by changing the songs, and you guys aren’t on the same wavelength. Which sucks.
It’s your choice what to do and depends on whether this is a pattern of behaviour/there’s a consistent one sided dynamic but I’m sure there’s a guy out there that would be over the moon to get a mixtape.
Mr Seagoon is a bit of a muso himself and it took me a while for me to understand that he enjoys all kinds of music and the different emotions it can evoke. It’s art. So when he plays a song for me often it’s sharing the art, it’s not telling me a message. I’ve had to learn to not be literal.
Play Song Pong with him! Make a new playlist, get some nice booze, and you take turns adding your fav songs to the playlist and listen to them, it’s super fun and you’ll learn a lot about each others music preferences. Back when my partner and I were just FWB, he introduced me to the game and we introduced each other to so much new and cool music we hadn’t heard before.
Don’t write it off completely… I’m not a lyrics person at all. For me it’s about the feel and emotion in the music with the vocal - but not necessarily the lyrics, you know…
There’s a thing called frisson (I think), which is that rush of emotion you get when listening to a song, look at a piece of art, read a passage that you really understand etc. Example for me is the guitar riff kick in my previously mentioned Fix You by Coldplay… The lyrics are ok I guess, but that guitar at 2:35 just hits so hard every time I hear it…
You’re going to break up over a playlist? Look I hope this doesn’t come across as harsh but it does strike me as an over reaction. Not everybody is a Taylor Swift fan. I personally don’t care for her and I don’t think she can sing particularly well.
It’s possible you have different love languages and he can’t necessarily compute your gesture. But if you say, made him a lavishly difficult cake he might love it.
Anyway food for thought, pardon the pun.
