Ps. Also while I said I wasn’t going to judge (and I’m not) please be careful as some types of people (romantic or platonic) like to chip your confidence down so you will tolerate them as their behaviour gets worse. Especially if they find someone who is already isolated or feeling low.

You’re already questioning your emotions and reactions to his behaviour after he questioned it. You’re already doubting yourself. He’s already set very low expectations for how he can behave with you. So just… you know. Be careful.

If this lack of care gets even more blatant, if he starts saying little things that feel bad or strange or stick in your head, mentions or checks out other women, starts comparing or making critical remarks, or you just start feeling more anxious or moodier than normal - then you would be doing yourself a big favour to just stop trying to talk, analyse or fix things and just BAIL.

Your emotions are your friends. They tell you when something is wrong.