Tbh I just went on a date with a cool as fuck person and turns out all their roommates were cool as fuck and now I’m friends with a handful of cool people and sometimes we play tabletop games and shit.

I had tried making friends in all the normal advice ways (school, work, sports, clubs, g*mes, bars, hooking up and then just being friends instead, etc) but the way my ADD and depression swing in long arcing cycles kinda makes me disappear from social events or just existing in general.

Having a significant other that you hang out at home with kinda puts you in a position to hang out with other people around your own house so you don’t have to hit that (usually impossible while depressed) energy requirement to leave the house and be social.

Plus most of the friends I’ve made/kept have also had similar experiences with anxiety, attention disorders, depression, and energy/sleep issues so they’re pretty understanding if I need to just not wake up on my day off or something.