Comment by DesertComrade [he/him]@hexbear.net on Your bi-opsy results are in. It's malignant

The obsession with sexuality is really weird Heterosexuals aren’t expected to define their exact preferences So why should bisexuals have to why can’t they simply fuck whoever they want without being analysed

Every person must be categorized as precisely as possible so they can be properly judged by class, race, gender, sexuality, disability, ideology, religion, fashion, etc. Otherwise how would I know how much visible disgust to show when looking at them?

That’s what it feels like man

Honestly this is why I just say everyone that isn’t extremely straight is queer. Definitely controversial but if queer means “not straight” then everyone who isn’t straight is queer. And most folks agree queer is just “not straight.” I dunno what the fuck I am but I ain’t straight so I’m queer. It’s enough for me and for lots of folks I know. It’s much clearer this way I think

Exactly i would argue most people are a bit queer and that’s fine

How would that work?

Apparently my tone here is unintentionally offensive so I’m just gonna remove it, sorry.

Queer often means “Anyone who isn’t both heterosexual AND cisgender.” Some people throw in “allosexual” in the mix too because some cishet aces would call themselves queer, which is valid too because identity is ultimately personal and up to one’s preferred interpretation. Speaking of that, you say that you don’t look at queerness and gender identity as necessarily related, but some queer people do, and that is to be respected even if you wouldn’t use such terminology for yourself in the context of gender identity.

I think this is objective fact

I dunno I’ve had plenty of folks (usually who identify as gay or lesbian) say they aren’t queer, they’re gay or lesbian. I think it’s just that crowd of old guard exclusionary gays usually.

To be more charitable there are also lgbt people of older generations who may’ve had “queer” used as a slur against them, which is important to consider imo.

But I generally tend to view “queer” as an umbrella for all legbutt stuff, so

For sure. When an older gay tells me they aren’t queer I’m not a dick about it, I’m happy to accept any label they want. I just think that normalizing a broader umbrella usage of queer is important long term.

Sometimes I feel like the only reason I have a “word” for my sexual orientation to begin with is the fact that people are obsessed with classifying it. I could go “unlabeled,” but I guess that’ll get people wondering who could be a potential partner for me (plot twist: I don’t care about gender at all. I’m pan.)

Oil me up, buttercup!

That’s good for you I hope you find someone that can fulfill you emotionally and sexually

Oh, I already found that person! Guess who it is?

The good kind of laissez-faire

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