Queer often means “Anyone who isn’t both heterosexual AND cisgender.” Some people throw in “allosexual” in the mix too because some cishet aces would call themselves queer, which is valid too because identity is ultimately personal and up to one’s preferred interpretation. Speaking of that, you say that you don’t look at queerness and gender identity as necessarily related, but some queer people do, and that is to be respected even if you wouldn’t use such terminology for yourself in the context of gender identity.
Oh for sure. I’m definitely not trying to take anyone’s identity from them or invalidate them, so sorry if it comes across that way. I think dialogues about gender and sexuality are super interesting. I would definitely agree that ace is queer too, I know lots of ace queers and drift in and out of ace myself at times.
The only time you’re not ace is when you have quiet moments alone with beanis
