I’m asking really genuinely and I’m really trying to learn.
Fuck yeah, that’s the coolest shit o7
So I see it this way: if someone is a bad person and your aim is to hurt them, you are under no obligation to be truthful. The aim is to hit that nerve and tear them down, hurt them, not draw analysis and convince someone of something you believe. If their weak point is getting called ugly, call em ugly, even if you believe that ‘uglyness’ is a social construct that serves to keep people down. Now, to be clear, I’m not even necessarily endorsing doing this, cause I don’t really like hurting people, even people I hate, but It illustrates a time where I think these kinds of insults and breaches of conduct are allowed, one on one with a nazi or similar magnitude piece of shit. Hit them where it hurts with their own fucked up values system, you don’t owe them honesty, you don’t owe them good faith bullying. But again, even then I’m not convinced, it’s not something I am comfortable doing, I’ve definitely done it but it doesn’t sit right so I avoid it
But that’s only if it’s one on one, going directly to and hurting only that fash that needs bashin. Otherwise, say in public on an internet forum, especially a leftist one where none of the people being targeted would ever see, then it becomes a social phenomenon, actively participates in and advances harmful attitudes.
That doesn’t apply to these mutuals though, assuming you’re talking about people you know online or offline who are in a circle of friends or whatever, individual cases that seem to be reachable and who you exist to as a person not an internet stranger. I don’t think hurting is ever the way to go there. One of the big drivers of people towards being fash is atomization and the pain caused by social isolation and yadda yadda. Getting hurt and feeling small is what probably help drove them there, at least in all the cases I’ve personally observed, don’t quote that as a rule.
If you think there’s a way to get through to the person, help them, prove yourself to them as an equal, and try to lift them up. It’s like how if you hope to make an impact organizing a workplace, you can’t be a slack, you have to go above and beyond for your coworkers, prove to them that you’re fighting tooth and nail for them, cover shifts for them, make their lives easier, prove things can be better.
Sorry for rambling lmao, I’m pretty high and most of this is stream of consciousness so don’t take it too seriously haha
If for some reason you want to read more of my ramblings adjacent to this topic, I wrote this post about rehabilitating the ‘mutuals’ in our lives
Idunno how to feel about that tier of intelligence based insults, like, they’re literally the words children just learning the concept of insults call each other and by adulthood are incredibly firmly ingrained for many of us as such, a largely harmless and childish yet effective insult.
I don’t really know where the line is, so I just try my best to avoid it as best I can shrug
all I can say is that I don’t think calling someone an idiot on twitter makes you a bad person or a bad leftist, but it’s something I personally am trying to avoid doing
Why stupid though? Is being a terf correlated to a lack of intelligence? No, it’s ignorance, and hate, and a lack of empathy. I get it, I default to stuff like “stupid” or “idiot” a lot, but we just miss a moment to really call them out in favor of a small moment that makes us feel good
But as I said I can see how this is not universal.
Hit the nail on the head. It’s not universal, and it’s impossible to account for everything, but there’s no harm caused to me by trying to avoid insults like we’ve been discussing so I figure it’s a good bet. I prefer to hit on the flaws with their ideals, politics, morals etc, it makes my analysis and criticism sharper since I avoid the easier to come by appearance-based etc insults. Not to call them lazy, but not using them certainly requires more creativity to really flay someone
