It makes me so mad/sad that this is the modern reality for relationships. At the same time my self esteem is skyrocketing because of all the likes like a casino with bright lights and big numbers but the whole thing feels cheapened. I know there’s more valid reasons to this besides the fact that idk how to text matches but I’m blanking
I’m going to go against you here.
I think these sort of sites have been a net benefit to human relationships. I meet my current partner on tinder, and the two previous best relationships I had were through tinder. I get Adam is a bit of a lib but Adam Ruins Everything has an episode about dating apps and say the main benefit of them is they “put single people who want to date in contact with other single people who want to date” (paraphrasing). And I think these sites work very well in that regard, if you’re a young person who wants to meet other people, these sites are a good way to connect with other such people without having to go to the awkward, often toxic, spaces of bars, clubs and other social gathering. While it is totally possible to meet people at such events, it does suck for people who are either anti-social, awkward, or just generally dislike going to such gathering, so having a service where such people can reach out to others and arrange to meet in more comfortable terms is, I’d argue, a benefit for people looking to form relationships.
So yeah even under full communism I think there should be something like Tinder.
Again, I meet my current partner who I am very much in love with on Tinder, as well as two other people who I had very positive relationships with. I get the format is kind of shallow, but so is regular human attraction, in normal social settings people are usually motivated by base things like physical attraction and general hornyness. But if you take the time to actually talk with people and then meet them on equal footing in a real life setting, Tinder can be just as much of an avenue to real relationships as any other setting.
