I’m going to post a couple links to sources for the next couple days to hopefully start a conversation in this space! These will fall in the area of Fat Studies and there’s some norms you should be aware of:
- “fat” is taken as a neutral descriptor, think of it as reclaiming the word.
- “obese” arbitrarily medicalises fatness and Others fat people
I’m a cis man and I have (had) body image issues (in the past)
https://humanparts.medium.com/my-journey-toward-radical-body-positivity-3412796df8ff
I’m queer and fat
https://www.dropbox.com/s/yeefpijtl4s7orv/Flaunting Fat – Sex with the Lights On.pdf?dl=0
I’m queer and not fat
https://www.bitchmedia.org/post/fat-liberation-is-totally-queer
The others don’t apply to me and/or I only have the energy/time to read one source
https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/everything-you-know-about-obesity-is-wrong/
:sankara-salute:
👉 Part 2 is up
👉 Part 3 is up
There’s a piece I can link about how many FA people try to lose weight and keep it a secret because they feel guilty about it. I would recommend you look into body neutrality, which is talked about elsewhere in this post https://hexbear.net/post/83994/comment/910868
my scoliosis is a big factor in me wanting to maintain a lighter weight, so i feel you. my girlfriend tries to be nice and disagree with me when i say things like “i’ve put on some weight”, but the truth is that it literally physically hurts me when i cultivate too much mass
yeah, it’s one thing to say we need to quit being mean to fat people (we do) but it’s a bit frustrating sometimes having people tell me it’s okay that i’ve put on weight when for me it’s not okay. i literally could have made state records with my endurance, but running fucks me up, and even more when i’m out of shape
Agree completely. I had an epiphany during these Covid times about what I needed from my diet, which was simply to eat less and eat differently/vegan. Over the years, this has been framed to me as “restriction” or “disordered,” but that’s not true. I eat things that I want to eat, but less of them. I had to look at myself and be honest about the fact that I just don’t need to eat that many calories. I’m short and, at the moment, not overly active.
I also noticed how easy it was to be fed by people at work; pre-Covid, people would bring in snacks or there would be pizza or cake or cookies for whatever reason. Now it’s not happening due to social distancing, and I feel a lot better without having to think about it at all. I don’t have to resist the offers of food, and I don’t have to argue with myself. I just go home and have the stuff I really want. Kind of dreading the return to form, to be honest.
