This should be fucking obvious but an argument I just went through on Twitter (gods I really should just not get on twitter) tells me that even left-leaning people for some reason sometimes think they are owed this information simply because they are interested in flirting.
Transpeople have no obligation to out themselves. even if you have or are going to kiss, or date them.
To think otherwise is to assume you are owed knowledge about their body. To get upset after they do tell you is to assume you were entitled to continue the relationship, or that they were trying to manipulate you.
If you have hangups that would prevent a relationship it’s on YOU to be upfront about them or to accept the potential disappointment with grace.
Okay but on date one, date two, hell, even date three, your romantic interest may not want to have sex with you regardless of whether or not they’re asexual. Your date may never want to have sex with you, or they might initially want to have sex and then change their mind. Maybe they want to wait six months because they got burned by a recent ex. I don’t think someone should have to tell you whether or not you’re going to get laid in order to accept or ask you out on a date.
