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I’m such a great ally, I would suck a dude’s dick if I could… 😳
Real talk though, it absolutely is not “easier” dating men. Not only do you have to constantly worry that you could be attacked if you show same-sex attraction in public, you also have to deal with male-dominated spaces and the risk of violence there.
Being gay means never being able to let your guard down.
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It sounds like you went through some heavy trauma to bring you to that mindset.
It’s hard enough navigate dating and relationships, even worse when you have baggage with the gender you’re attracted to.
I’m not going to try to diagnose you or compare your opportunities with mine. I don’t know you enough for that. Instead, I’ll be honest about my own experience.
Navigating dating as a gay man is difficult for me, in part due to male figures in my life. It’s still hard for me to separate men in general from what I understand or want men to be. Sometimes that means I fall for bullshit or get myself into bad situations. Other times it means I have unrealistic expectations for men I date and disappoint myself when they don’t live up to them.
I enjoy my identity in the LGBT community, but it took a long time to get there and it’s still hard. It’s an ongoing process to deprogram internalized homophobia and put the things I’ve been through into a healthy perspective.
I used to wish I was straight for the sake of an easier life, but that wouldn’t undo the pain I felt, because really, my sexual orientation wasn’t the source of that pain. And my relationship issues would work their way into my life, regardless of who my partner was.
I don’t know your situation, but I wish you well on your processing.
I promise you that men are no ‘easier’ than women. Everything that women ‘do’ men do while also getting irrationally angry and possessive.
From what I’ve noticed, hetero relationships/dating are kind of difficult in many ways, probably at least in part due to established gender roles and dominant social expectations of relationships and partners. Not saying that gay relationships/dating don’t have their own unique hurdles, though.
Finding dudes attractive is fucking annoying for me because I am probably the least feminine woman you’ll ever meet. Men don’t often find that attractive, at least in my experience.
In my younger years I had a constant problem of crushing on tomboys who turned out to be lesbians :sadness:
We’re out here :cat-vibing:
Thats the sound of a thousand silent screams hitting the frustration barrier. We are out here.
I used to train in the same space as some women who deadlifted and squatted heavy weights. Without feeding into stereotypes,some extremely long term relationships resulted,
This post has been edited to bring horny content within acceptable parameters.
Haha, oh man, sorry. I know you guys are out there. It’s just the ones who aren’t are a little more vocal about it. I’m talking your “All women should be feminine!” Peter Molyneux, types. They seem to voice this opinion louder. Hope I didn’t sound like I was tarring all dudes with the same brush.
No need to apologise, I clearly need to be more vocally horny, louder, in future. Appreciate being set straight on this :deng-smile:
