I’m not your therapist, but are you doing alright? How are things going in life? Do you want to talk about it?

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I think a lot of people think that being well-off and successful basically eliminates all of life’s worries, and I think that’s especially the case in more left-wing circles. It’s really not, until you hit that like 10 million net worth mark or so, or are wealthy for reasons other than working. Really the only stressors it removes are the economic stressors, aside from the fear that everything goes to shit if you lose your job.

Moderate wealth from actual work still leaves you alienated from the haute bourgeoisie, while simultaneously alienating you from the rest of the proletariat. Your only option is to bump elbows with the petite bourgeoisie who won’t relate to the issues you have, which is still alienating. Everyone above you on the capitalism tower is punching down, and everyone below you is punching up, so it’s a weird position to be getting punched from both directions.

The great unifier is that everyone has the same non-economic issues, but the divider is now that nobody wants to hear them. I feel ya there. DM me if you wanna have a chat about this or vent!

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I’m not sure if I’m experiencing a zen-like detachment from desire, or if I’m just depressed.

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Why not both? It could always be both.

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Stuck in parent’s basement. Not exactly got any plan for life. I need to get a job or go back to school or do something with my life but honestly I just don’t know. I haven’t had a real job in almost 2 years now but I’m going to claw my eyes out if I have to sit about my room accomplishing nothing with my life

Other than that, pretty alright

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I think it’s important to ask yourself if you want to go back to school or get a job. It’s totally alright to just… not. There are definitely other things you can do to not have to just sit about and do nothing. Exercise, reading, and volunteering are all great options. You can even take a while to go volunteer abroad with various programs, depending on your nation of origin. Getting a TEFL or other language’s equivalent online is also pretty easy, and teach English if that’s your vibe. There are also things like A+ Certification courses to get you into IT, or union apprenticeship programs for trades. There are tons of options out there as long as you have the motivation.

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No, I certainly want to go back out there and actually do something with my time. Having your labor be exploited by a capitalist sucks but actually having something to get up and do everyday is just so helpful to my mental state. I never really considered teaching english as I don’t speak any other languages than English so I would have to teach myself my own second language in order to do that but teaching seemed like something I could do.

It’s not so much not having the opportunity it’s more just the lack of drive. Everytime I try and think about what I COULD do I just freeze up and anytime I try thinking about a longer term goal like going to culinary school for a bit to get some proper kitchen experience and training, which is a job I actually quite enjoy, I just keep thinking “Man, at the rate the world is going, you’re going to be spending the 2040s hunting rats in a long abandoned Walmart for subsistence. What could you possibly do right now that’s going to change any of that?”

Obviously that’s an extremely toxic line of thinking and sitting in your room playing Yakuza and watching old cartoons all day isn’t exactly survival training, but this thought process is frustratingly pervasive and I’m struggling to get out of it

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Most TEFL or sub-TEFL teaching programs don’t actually require that you speak any languages other than English. The classes operate on that “we only speak English in this room” type vibe, though immersion is the easiest way to learn another language, so it’s usually pretty much inevitable that you’ll pick up some of the local language.

I totally get the walmart rat farmer thing, though. I’m absolutely the same way. Nothing really matters to me in the medium term except establishing myself and figuring out ways to survive. Motivation is a nightmare, for sure. Having said that, cooking skills and experience would be extremely valuable in that scenario, so I definitely recommend trying that route!

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like i am in brazil, feels like the fucking pandemic will never end, and i am so tired all the time

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Maybe Lula will be able to handle it better? It looks like Brazil will :vote: hard enough.

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like yeah we just need to wait the rest this year and then the next one is the election and he would be president by the start of 2023 which is so long

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It sucks. Nowhere seems to be handling this well, and the imperial core is fucking everyone else over on vaccines for profits. This shit is fucked.

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Things are slowly looking up.

I finally have the urge to make lifestyle changes after years of not wanting to and not knowing WHY I didn’t want to. Realizing you have needs that have gone unfulfilled for a good chunk of your life is weird. Seeing and connecting with people and not just being around my family like I’ve been for the last year is letting me rethink things, though. Socializing so far is way less stressful than just existing at home.

Like others, I’m pretty lonely. I want to have people in my life, and I feel like I’ve grown distant to all but a few of the people I knew in school. I’ve seen people, but nobody I was in school with before COVID. That’s probably the weirdest part for me.

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I think everyone’s grown pretty distant, and people are gonna have to figure out how to make friends as an adult. It’s uh. Kind of a nightmare to start from scratch on that thing, but as someone who’s always been drifting from one friend group to the next, I think it’ll at least mean that I’m able to embed more closely with some people.

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