It was so easy to make friends during my undergrad because I lived in the dorms. But I lost half of them due to a messy situation with my ex girlfriend, and the other half doesn’t live in town anymore.
Now I’m 22, working on my Master’s, and I feel like I have no one.
@yewler
I hope I’m no longer banned. (Hurray, I’m no longer banned from this place)
I’m looking at @StalinIsMaiWaifu as I was failing with 1, 3 and 4, although that was 20 years ago.
- It’s not about “talking to people”. I’m not good at that, so that didn’t work for me.
- The biggest win for me was joining the anime/game/book (all-rolled-into-one) club, as it was the ideal social setting for me.
- The people I ended up making friends with were those that just joined,
because those don’t have friends yet and once they do, they no longer look for new ones, just like you would.
You should look for those people in particular.
Those are the three best advices I could give you.
Spend time with people doing things. Then invite them out for drinks at the end of the things.
Remember back to freshman orientation:
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Talk to people in your field, the PhD candidates, other MS students, hell even the undergrads
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Pick up and engage in social hobbies. If you’re sporty regularly showing up at pickup games is a good way to start, for more nerd inclined joining a game, book, or anime club. The idea is find a social setting for something you love doing so it’s less pressure for everyone involved
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Go out to the social centers- bars, parks, malls- if you find a place you like you can get to know the regulars
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Join a singles activity group- these aren’t just for dating
This is wonderful advice. Thank you very much. I’m stealing all of this :)
One last tip, try to organize an online game night with your friends who moved away, discord has a couple built in and I highly recommend boardgamearena.com
From clay of course :(
