Oh boy
I guess my irl opinion when it comes to marriage is controversial (I believe it hasn’t really been deconstructed since it’s inception and is problematic for a number of reasons), but I’m curious whether anyone shares the same thoughts. Like finding your forever person? 100%
Everything else associated with it like the status symbol, doing it just to do it, inconsistent sharing of responsibilities? No good imo
Could be my autistic brain taking over, but I truly cannot comprehend why something like this needs to be in writing to be “official”
Idk I’m opinionated and sometimes my opinions suck and I need someone to bring me back to reality
I dropped a duece earlier… anyway… hmmmf…
I’m still pretty young, but my image of marriage is very colored by a pretty abusive relationship I was in with someone who wanted to be ‘with me forever’ (to the point where it would be unacceptable for me to remarry if they died). As a result of this the process of being forever tied down with anyone is veryyyy terrifying to me because I have to assume it’ll be in a situation like that.
Reading the other stories people have posted here though I’m really glad it works for some people. Being able to actually have someone I can life partner with would be nice but I think it’s pretty unlikely I’ve met that person yet.
As an institution? My spouse and I both dislike it
But in the US at least, a lot of legal rights are locked behind it. For instance, if you’re unconscious in a hospital bed, your partner won’t be allowed in to see you. If medical decisions need to be made from there, your partner will have no say in them whatsoever. If an immediate family member shows up - regardless of what kind of relationship you have with them - they will get to decide by default
kinda antiquated as a concept but there’s a lot of legal baggage tied to it, and (more importantly) i like having access to it to spite conservative christians
It’s primarily an economic arrangement. Championing it a metric of virtuosity is mostly just vibes.
