Feel free to share any life experiences or anecdotes.
If you’re in the US or generally any country that’s becoming authoritarian, get a passport. You never know how bad it may get.
Get accostumed to eat your veggies, once you hit you 30s your intestine starts revolting if you don’t give it healthy food
Find a topic that you have interest in and master it. This will only get harder as you get older.
Do not marry the first girl you fuck (or the first boy, either way, mixed ways too, anytype anyway).
Go live with him/her, share an apartment (do not buy together) for months, live together for some time.
Possibly, break up and meet more people, rinse and repeat until you understand:
- what you WANT in the other person
- what you EXPECT from the other person
And more important even, learn to understand the other person for what he/she is and not what you think he/she is.
Meh, sometimes you just know after seeing who’s out there. I wouldn’t recommend breaking off something good and risking not getting it back because of your insecurities.
Don’t assume you have to get on the relationship escalator of “dating - exclusive - engaged - married”. There are other kinds of relationships, including no romantic/sexual relationships at all. Don’t stick with someone who’s not making you happy out of inertia or a sense of obligation.
Be social. Don’t burn yourself out socializing every night of the week, but if people are inviting you to be a part of their life make a good effort to show up. Video games or YouTube or whatever will always be there. Friends won’t. (This assumes the social stuff they’re inviting you to isn’t , like, insane. Skip on someone inviting you to do heroin or whatever.)
Pay attention to your spending. Some people like a dedicated program for budgeting, or their bank provides something. I’m a particular kind of nerd so I used Google sheets. Whatever you use, adding up what you’re actually spending every month can be illuminating. I don’t expect anyone to discover “if I stop getting avocado toast I can afford a house”, but knowing where your money is going is an important prerequisite for controlling it.
Don’t fall into lifestyle inflation. Like, a friend of mine started making good money and his budget grew. He was spending $1000/month on food because he’d just gotten used to dining out and such. His paycheck was bigger but he wasn’t saving any more. Another guy I used to work with told me his family “struggled too” despite a $500k family income. They had a big house, new cars, expensive memberships, extravagant vacations, designer clothes. You can just not do a lot of that and be happy, too.
