Im a trans woman, and im bisexual. My attraction to women goes from “I wanna be you” to “I wanna be with you”

Sometimes I end up looking at the downblouse, mostly since im taller than most cis women. Recently I was with a friend, everything ok, however. I was able to see her nipples because of the blouse she was wearing and her loose bra. I was normal about it, but I was feeling bad and uncomfortable because this is my friend and I felt like I was kinda invadir her provacy somehow.

What I wanna ask is if yall notice when someone is watching the downblouse and how you feel about it.

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I’m female and bi and it is definitely noticeable when someone is staring at my chest and it is very uncomfortable. When I was younger there were certain guys that rarely looked me in my face and were just looking at my chest the whole time. I asked other girls about it and they agreed they too felt them gazing at their chests and it was really uncomfortable and off-putting for them as well. If you wanna help then tell them discreetly to tighten their bra straps. Otherwise I don’t find it acceptable to stare at a woman’s chest. A glance maybe but you should really be looking at their faces. People are not meat or eye candy, don’t objectify them, just remember the person they are inside. There may be women ok with it and like flaunting it but that’s not been my personal experience.

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