Yeah I know dating apps bad etc
I paid 17 dollars for the week pass allowing me unlimited likes 💀 of course because I’m desperate and they force you into that choice because using it for free you only get 5 free likes a day lmao. The problem is NOBODY fucking responds back to my messages, I’ve had 2 conversations out of 20 matches, one of the convos died after I asked them out, the other convo just ended abruptly for no apparent reason. It’s really demoralizing to say the least but I just don’t understand, if they don’t like me and accidentally sent a like they should just unmatch right away but they don’t.
The future is grim. How does anyone meet anyone anymore?
Dating apps are literally luck based. At some point you’ll see someone you like and they’ll like you back, sure, but in reality that person might not be looking right now, or might be on a date with someone else and ignore their other matches until it falls through, or they might have given up altogether.
The hardest thing, but the best thing imo, is to try and back off a bit: do a few swipes on a break at work or whatever and then ignore it for the day. Maybe a few messages then ignore it for the day.
As for meeting people (albeit platonically in my experience), there are loads of activities that people like to do and meet people. Stuff like board games cafés often host mixers. My partner does gymnastics at an adults class where she’s met friends. I know others who do climbing, running clubs, all sorts. You can probably find something you like by searching up a hobby you enjoy and “mixer” or “social”.
met my absolute dream girl on Hinge a few weeks ago after grinding for a few months and getting curved multiple times. Keep on swiping it’s worth it!
Conversations with total strangers on an app is liberalism. Ask them out in the first like/message.
“Hey, (person name) I really dig your profile, would you like to take a walk in the park or grab a cup of tea sometime?”
It’s that easy. No conversations, ever. Like another comrade said, masc presenting/dudes never ask women out. So you will be a refreshing change of pace. You can’t tell if you like someone via text anyway. You’ll find out within 15 minutes in person. (In my opinion)
Ask out everyone you’re interested in at a slow pace. Line up three dates for the weekend. Expect two to cancel.
Going to events, hobby meetups, clubs, etc, is always going to be 100x more effective at meeting people than the accursed apps. They have a financial incentive for you to be unsatisfied and keep swiping. Obviously don’t be that person who shows up just to try to pick up people, but seriously you gotta go outside. I understand if maybe you live in a remote area and there aren’t many things going on, but in almost every situation going outside is more effective and less demoralizing than the apps. Especially if you can find something that’s regular and you can attend weekly or monthly or whatever. That’s how connections form naturally, by being in the same place as other people and slowly getting to know them. This thing where we look at some photos of people and then immediately try to talk intimately with them is extremely unnatural, it’s no wonder it doesn’t work very well.
Dating apps make money by creating feelings of loneliness and desperation, and then selling you a promise of connection. But if they actually delivered, then you wouldn’t be a repeat customer, would you? That’s why dating apps are a pit of despair, I wouldn’t recommend them.
