What words, phrases or signs do you use and how do you get your partner’s attention?
Sign Language works pretty well.
We picked it up when my daughter was younger and we just kept going. Now we use it to speak to each other from across the room during loud events.
If I tell my partner that something drains the color out of a room, she knows that whomever I’m talking to is a bigot/phobe and we leave. More often than not though, she’ll ask me who it is and tell them off.
Ha! Our trick is that we’re never with company. We are very boring homebodies.
Instead of spelling it out or code, my wife and I will use increasingly obscure synonyms to hide our conversations from the kids.
They figured out “frozen confection” meant ice cream, so I need a new one.
We have a Darmok and Jalad at Tenagra style system where we reference memorable past events.
