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My sister (16) has been struggling with online classes, and as someone with similar issues (undiagnosed but I think we both have ADHD/autism) I’ve been trying my best to help her along, since my parents don’t really understand how to motivate her. But lately, I’ve failed. She’s like 2 weeks behind on math homework and in the past week I’ve managed to get her through a single assignment. Her sleep schedule is becoming worse and worse and after work I have to beg her to get out of bed at 5-6pm.

We also share a room so I can’t ignore it but god damn I can barely take care of myself. I’d spend hours trying to convince my little sister to get homework done, but she’s convinced that she can’t do it, and I can’t focus on myself or relax in my room til someone figures out how to help her.

Just spent like 20 minutes of my morning routine stressing about this because once again she was going to bed at the same time I was waking up, and now I’ll have to force her out in 10 hours when I get home

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WHY TF DOES ADHD HAVE TO MAKE EVERYTHING SO HARD

wish I found out when I was younger so I could’ve learned coping skills when things (school, work, etc) didn’t matter

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I’m in the recurring “everythings falling apart” phase of my college semester.

Mood af.

I’m in the same phase right now, especially since my university recently came back from spring break, so I’ve been having to try and force myself back into a mindset where I can get work done. Tbh, for me that feeling of falling apart wasn’t always warranted in hindsight. Pre-covid I’d steadily built up coping strategies that helped me do better at school as time went on and classes got harder, so I’ve actually surprised myself on several occasions by doing much better than I expected. I’ve also done the opposite though where I didn’t feel like “everything’s falling apart” about certain classes and wound up failing. For example, I got a B in Theoretical Physics despite that class dealing with some pretty high level math that I still feel I don’t totally grasp, but I also had to take Multivariable Calculus 3 times in order to get a high enough grade to move on with my degree, despite the fact that on paper it should be much easier that a Theoretical Physics class.

Everything moving online due to covid kinda ruined a lot of my coping strategies though. It’s nice being able to stay at home all day with my family, but trying to take an online Quantum Mechanics course with inattentive type ADHD while living with 5 other people is not easy lol.

This time I’ve tried to create rules about computer usage to help me stay on task. I’m going to start this tomorrow. Wish me luck!

Good luck with that comrade. o7

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I’m in the recurring “everythings falling apart” phase of my college semester.

ouch. me too. its so hard where I feel like there’s just this inevitable slump I hit no matter how well I’m doing where I fuck myself over

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GL Comrade!

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edit: removed the last sentence. Don’t worry, I’m in a better headspace now

o7

Good to hear comrade.

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I am sorry this recent strugglesesh has affected you so negatively. The mod team for this comm is here to support and have a safe space for ND comrades, and if there’s anything that can be done to help let me know. Your comment may be triggering for some people, so please edit and include a content warning and hide the last sentence in a spoiler box. For any questions about formatting use https://hexbear.net/docs/about_guide.html

it’s been a rough week for all of us. :Care-Comrade:

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Look, to be honest, I’m don’t want to dox information about myself. But I just got diagnosed with ADHD at time that almost seems too late in life, and I dunno, it’s so bittersweet. Like yes, finally diagnosed and it’s great that I’m going to be able to get the help I need to get, but I also have been put through a lot of shit because of being un-diagnosed (like chronic unemployment, a big reason I wanted to get diagnosed is because I would just sporadically quit my job for no reason with no prior planning). It just really fucking sucks how the world is not made for people who are ND. But a small win, and some closure on chapters of my life that never really made sense.

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