I honestly think just having it there on the sidebar would be enough. Then I (or anyone else) could tell someone to maybe cool it a bit without coming across as a :LIB:

That’s cool, I just didn’t appreciate the relatively small implication that I was weird for reading it that way (that you may not have intended of course, I’m sorry).

also I will

Maybe the moderators just have a lot more lenient of a definition of hostility than I do.

Either way, it should be stricter in the mental health comm.

wait there are RULES against hostility? i have never seen someone follow them, or de-escalate to follow them, then.

If you tell a lactose intolerant person that they’re “missing out” on ice cream, people will think you’re an asshole (Ethics of ice cream aside). Not that you are one, it seems pretty obvious you didn’t intend it that way, but I was just explaining why I read it the way I did.

It is not. The rules do not specify any kind of way posters on the comm should be treated, other than that we shouldn’t downplay experiences. It’s a good start, but either not taken seriously enough or not perceived as covering mistreatment of posters.

It is though. When you “miss out” on something that implies you’ve made a mistake on not choosing to participate in that thing. We describe a person who brought one movie to a desert island and watched The Room instead of some sort of masterpiece to be “missing out”. We never say that about someone who takes another masterpiece instead, though, because they wouldn’t be “missing out” because they could only choose one of those things in the first place, so it’s unnecessary thing to point out, even though it’s technically true. It’s one of those annoying things where the phrase itself doesn’t have any real implication like that, but in this context it does.

well, yes, but that isn’t really what i think of with the term “missing out”. “missing out” kind of implies they’re committing some sort of grave error that will make their life worse than the alternative, not that it will give a different experienced as is expected with quite literally every small decision humans make ever

i love the term cracker dearly, but maybe introducing new users with a “stfu” might not be the most reliable way to create new socialists

You: Foolishly believing they are immune, still being subsumed while your ego insists otherwise

Me: based, cool, protected from memetic spores by living under a rock for the rest of my life