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Ugh. Seriously? Itā€™s just a chart attempting to simplify peopleā€™s gender identity and I even said I see it as more 3D and complex than it is. Iā€™m not going to discuss the merits of the chart. I deleted the whole part about the stupid chart because it doesnā€™t matter and I donā€™t care to defend it.

This conversation is over. You pivoted because you know your baseless accusations have been disproven. In the future, try not to be such an annoying asshole when you simply donā€™t understand someone elseā€™s viewpoint. Goodbye.

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Ah. So youā€™re misunderstanding what I mean by it being biological in nature. It being biological doesnā€™t mean that there are only two or anything like that. Gender, physical sex, and sexuality, (and probably damn near everything that goes in to who a person is) is on a multiaxal spectrum and people inhabit different areas of this. Those different areas appear to be determined by processes during fetal development. You can be born without sexuality but it is also biological in nature. Does this clarify the confusion here?

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ā€¦ Are you being intentionally obtuse? I never fucking said I donā€™t believe in a gender or gender fluidity. I keep saying I do and you keep saying I donā€™t. The only reason havenā€™t just blocked your ass and moved on is because I know you are generally a good faith poster from experienceā€¦ Not the rest? Are you fucking serious? Please, try not to be this way. This is embarrassing.

I believe they are trans and that they are the gender they say they are (or have no gender), and I believe they can be fluid or not or anywhere between. Why the hell you think otherwise is your own evidently terrible reading comprehension.

I donā€™t believe they are correct if they say they were made trans by external forces. That is IT. I said I donā€™t necessarily believe very aspect of their narrative about how they became trans because people generally arenā€™t that self aware. I had a conversation with a trans person in this very thread where they said they believed they were made trans and by the end of it they realized they were wrong. And I didnā€™t at any point tell them that their gender was wrong or that they werenā€™t trans, because I would never do that.

This is the last time Iā€™m going to bother with you: Quote two statements I made that contradict, not via your own special interpretation but statements I have made and will defend, or kindly leave me alone. Stop being a fucking troll.

Edit: fwiw my app doesnā€™t show display names or I would have probably assumed you were trans. Sorry about thinking you were cis. Sorry if this gives you dysphoria when you see my username in the future. Feel absolutely more than free to just block me to prevent that. If you come back with the same tired shit I will be blocking you after this. Oh, and feel free to block @june@hexbear.net as well as I might start using that soon.

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ā€¦ Did I say I donā€™t believe their stated gender?

Youā€™re being extremely obnoxious about what you perceived to be a contradiction because you keep making shit up about what I believe. I already told you I didnā€™t want to continue this discussion twice. I would rather not block you but this is getting ridiculous.

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I certainly can believe all trans people are trans while not believing that they are necessarily correct about their views of when or how they became trans. I simply donā€™t necessarily believe every aspect of the narrative they tell about their gender. People arenā€™t that self aware.

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Sorry I assumed you were cis. Nothing you said implied otherwise, you never talked about your experience with gender and referred to trans people in a way that made it sound like you werenā€™t a part of them. This conversation isnā€™t going to go anywhere because you are insistent on telling me what I believe and donā€™t care when I say otherwise. I donā€™t believe in all that stuff you said I do. I will know to avoid the topic of gender when I see you on this website in the future as well. Goodbye.

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I believe all trans people. I do believe that all trans people have gender dysphoria (otherwise there wouldnā€™t be a reason to transition) though many do not recognize it and believe they are trans (which they are) but do not experience dysphoria (which they do). Think of this in a pure motivation sense. One does not make major life changes without something informing that decision, which is what dysphoria is.

I am seriously interested in gender abolitionist takes that arenā€™t just abolishing the strict roles/styles/behaviors affiliated with gender. I donā€™t think you can provide this, because gender abolitionists do believe people have an intrinsic gender (or rather, one may have an intrinsic gender, wrt agender individuals) they just donā€™t believe that oneā€™s gender should be defined by someone else and that a lot of the roles and behaviors attributed to gender are regressive and need abolished. To which I agree. I am a woman but I am not gender conforming (rarely wear dresses or skirts, present relatively butch, and reject all gender roles).

Your rigid line of thinking here could easily convince someone that conversion therapy is a reasonable treatment for gender dysphoria, which it most certainly is not. Because why would it not be, if it could work? My answer to that is that my intrinsic gender is too much a part of me to rip out: you canā€™t change my gender. I would not be me if you tore my gender out of me.

Frankly, Iā€™m kind of growing tired of discussing trans issues with cis people, especially when they keep telling me Iā€™m biased (ā€œI know why youā€™re so defensive about thisā€). I have a gender, if you donā€™t then that is good for you, but you canā€™t take my gender from me. Please genuinely consider that this is based on my life experiences, whereas your view is informed second hand on othersā€™ lived experiences, if you wish to continue this discussion with me.

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