naive [he/him]

Thanks <3

Do mine!

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it is not the job of marginalized people to do emotional labor to make you okay with the fact that you’ve hurt them. the assumption that you are owed that labor is part of the system of oppression that makes life miserable for people you call comrade. it’s the same notion as when a loved one informs you that you’ve hurt them - if you make it their problem to make you feel better about the fact, you’re being an asshole. deal with the hurt you’ve caused, then deal with the feelings about yourself that having hurt someone causes within you.

this is such a core issue on this site and I’ve watched it drive away so many good comrades - especially, I’ve personally noticed, queer people, women, and people of color. I am certain that other marginalized identities are similarly driven away from this place.

Something Cass said that resonates here.

:fidel-salute-big: :heart-sickle: :af-heart:

you’ll get more dopamine hits from setting much more specific and iterative goals, and from building failures and setbacks into the plan.

Can you elaborate on this? And maybe using an example?

Don’t have any advice comrade except to say I’m in the same boat. Only thing different is I’m looking for jobs but my ADHD brain couldn’t retain shit in college so I’m struggling to relearn stuff. Still I’m going at it but everyday is a struggle. So solidarity comrade :heart-sickle: . Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Still can’t believe how good the first Hyperion book was. Each character story was so compelling.

Paging @the_river_cass

I’ve got nothing to add except to say its my favorite series of all time, all the flaws included. Just wish Jordan was alive to write the last 3 books and the rumored sequels. I love the world he created and its rich history.