teddiursa [she/her]

The problem isn’t the current dating culture. “Hookup culture” isn’t a modern day phenomenon, and Gen Z and Millennials are having less casual sex than previous generations were. And 99%+ people are monogamous.

This isn’t an actual trend though. “Hookup culture” was much more prevalent decades ago. Gen Z and Millennials are having less casual sex than previous generations were

Being better socially adjusted just means you’re good at adhering to social norms. If these kids are outside of the norm then they wont be considered better socially adjusted. Whatever is considered good social skills is defined by whatever the social norms are.

99% of men aren’t struggling to get a date. And 99% of women aren’t struggling to get a date. Maybe around 5-10% of both men and women are struggling. But at least half of people are in relationships right now, and the rest of people are either going on dates or not trying to date.

If they do not enjoy interacting with people then they shouldn’t even be thinking about dating. If they don’t want to interact with people then they shouldn’t be getting any dating advice at all.

None of those issues are caused by people messing around.

Most of the evangelicals that I know proposed on the second date because they wanted to get laid faster.

They’re still going on dates though. 95%+ of people in general are going on dates.

If I saw I’m a gay woman, that doesn’t mean I’m defining myself just by being gay. It just makes more sense than saying “I’m a woman with gayness.”

We don’t call tall people “people with tallness”. We don’t call black people “people with blackness.” Being autistic should not be treated any differently because being autistic isn’t worse than those things. Being autistic is actually much much much more fundamental to who I am than being gay is. There is a version of me that could exist without being gay. There is no version of me that could possibly exist without being autistic. It is not possible to remove autism from the person.

Typing a prompt into an AI isn’t doing art. People were always able to give prompts to artists.