I find it to be a good stress reliever and an excellent way to explore and reinforce boundaries/trust. Our fucked up society def plays a part tho, half my fantasies are just me coping with trauma from being treated like a financial object growing up.

I want a hot older guy to dote on me, hold me on his lap, shower me with compliments/kisses , give me a massage, then just rail my ass until I am a moaning mess.

As I read this I realize I need some serious gay tlc.

Yeah sorry I should have clarified it better. It’s hard for me to verbalize what the issue is. It’s like, there are big artists who market themselves as a character, but also as themselves? So you get people who fawn over a certain character, and then the artists use that “in” as a way to approach people for abuse. When it’s a fandom made up of people having curated identities the lines between boundaries become blurred. As expression I have no issue with it, but as a fandom with conventions, merchandise, and where people literally market themselves as a form of product- things get fucked up.

I’m really frustrated by this conversation.

Uh huh.

Please someone add a block function to this Lemmy.

Yeah, gross.

Making a furry avatar that can be slipped on/off and changed at any at any time is in no way similar to living in a trans body and I’m really grossed out by this.

Understandable comrade, have a nice day!

Firstly, I am coming from the perspective of someone who was active in the fandom for several years, got sexually/psychologically abused, and had an artist use their clout to silence me. I have met several other victims who have suffered similarly. This kind of thing has been a problem in the community for decades, especially because the content appeals to young and curious lgbt people.

I know my experience paints my opinion of the fandom. In my opinion it’s a fandom that glorifies parasocialism and emotional disassociation. Diverting emotional responsibility through avatars is the best way I can describe it.

If ppl want to have a furry community here IDGAF because I won’t participate, but I couldn’t help but be annoyed when I saw “disliking the furry fandom” equated to “hating queer people”.

As a trans person who has a really side eye opinion of the fandom (after being physically/psychologically abused, viciously, by some high profile people in the fandom) please do not make this comparison. It’s gross. People can be queer/queer positive and still have big problems with this fandom.

A lot of furry is problematic and there is a big lack of accountability/responsibility in furry spaces and it’s not wrong for people to be wary of it.

Seconding shroom therapy. I did shrooms last year and I felt like my brain was cleansed. It really helped see things from a “macro” level and it helped rid me of the feeling of having the world on my shoulders. It didn’t solve everything, but it reduced/removed a lot of PTSD trauma and it helped me kick a pot addiction.