In Relationships.
I’ve been told that all people in an Adultery are equally unethical & blameful. I don’t agree with this; i believe the upholding of exclusivity is incumbent on people in relationships, not those without.
in other words, if someone with a marriage ring is trying to bang you, its not your responsibility to chastise them & make sure they respect their partner.
i’m curious what other people think & any radical theory on the constitution of relationships, this stuff is very interesting to me
I don’t agree with this; i believe the upholding of exclusivity is incumbent on people in relationships, not those without.
So you think it’s fine to cheat with anyone anytime as long as you’re not the one in a relationship? You’re a piece of shit.
Sidenote: My guess is that you really want to cheat and are trying to justify this. I’m here to tell you: There is no justification, you suck if you do this, and should stop doing it immediately. If you’ve never done this before and are thinking of doing it, DON’T.
i’m trying to explore my view of what relationships mean and stuff, nobody in a committed relationship is in the same zipcode as banging me
and i’m thinking a relationship is a thing that should only involve the participants. it feels, to my view, that the hard line of ‘both are cheaters and equally bad’ is transferring culpability & responsibility outside of the breached relationship.
but this thread is gettin lots of interesting responses i might change my mind
Why is that shitty? As someone outside a relationship, it doesn’t matter. If not me, it’ll be the next guy anyway. You’re just ripping the band-aid off. Obviously it’s different if you’re cheating with a friend’s partner, but if it’s not your friend then who cares. You’re allowed to shoot your shot and it’s up to them to uphold their relationship. You’re probably ending a shit relationship anyway, cos if someone’s willing to cheat it’s heading to the dump anyway.
I think there’s an element of commitment to your friend that would make it weird and ruin your relationship with them if you cheated. In that case, better to warn them than to get your thrill.
If you don’t know them, then have sex with the hot MILF or whoever. Makes for a good story to tell. If you told a complete stranger that their wife was tryna cheat with you, they might just say you’re lying and ask you to get off their lawn. Feel like it would just allow the cheating to go on for longer.
Here’s a different example. In contact sports, when you’re doing practice drills with your own team, you don’t intend to break their ribs. Come match day, it’s war with the opposition. You have no dedication to them. They’re just another face.
