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I’ve always kinda occupied a space between genders or at least blurred the line in several ways, and I’ve been forced by peers to think about it. I don’t identify as LGBT or think of myself as queer though; I feel like there are people who need and fit that term far more than I do.

Is demisexuality really in the same category as the rest? I thought it was either a style/mode of attraction, or something like being an “empath” where most people have it to some extent.

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i was referring to demigender, but I figure demisexuality would be like the rest of the ace spectrum where a bunch of people are but never have the introspection or vocabulary, and could comfortably live their entire life fitting in well enough to avoid external pressure on their identity.

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Interestingly, my attraction to women was very different from how my guy friends described theirs, so I thought I was demisexual for a while.

Only after coming out as a trans lesbian do I now realize I was never demi lol

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I’ve never heard of demigender before… tell me more.

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uh I dunno people have little a salami gender, as a treat.

There’s no Académie Française for gender labels so there’s gonna be overlap from people who feel gender consistently but mildly, gender fluid who move between none and some, and some other folks i’m forgetting about.

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I personally do not experience sexual attraction at all until I know someone very well and have a pretty intense bond with them. I didn’t experience sexual attraction until I was about 23 and was really freaked out when it happened.

I think asexuality is pretty firmly under the umbrella of “queer” for me, and the dual attraction model helped me understand my sexuality for the first time in my life well after most people have had their sexual awakening. But I’m not sure how long that language has existed in its modern form. Not long, I don’t think. So the shared history is thinner.

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