Sweet man-made horrors beyond my comprehension.
Being clear about what you want and not wasting people’s time is exhibiting good social skills. Poor social skills is stringing someone along who you ultimately won’t want to meet up with because you’re not attracted to them.
You claim that being short is routinely derided, but if you’re counting this kind of behaviour as deriding honestly it’s kind of hard to take the claim seriously.
IDK comrade I think this kind of reasoning tends toward a kind of incel logic where men are just supposed to get women independent of what women actually want.