That’s what trips me up about the whole “disregarding female writers and directors” thing—I don’t think that’s untrue, but there’s a good chance it was just disregarding EVERYONE due to disagreements on lore
It is kind of a yikes situation because he may be disagreeing because of deviations from lore, but the way those disagreements are voiced, dealt with, and resolved can certainly be different because of the gender of the writing staff, and particularly the showrunner. The women working in the show have every right to feel he was being toxic with them because there is way more men can get away with in workplaces in a patriarchal society.