Sending good vibes to all of my trans comrades
As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It’s for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.
Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.
I don’t know if this is related or not, but would it be weird if I joined this community even if I’m a cis person?
P.S.: joining in the meaning of “clicking the button to get updates about the Lemmy community”. I’m sorry if I’m bothering anyone with my presence, this is not my intention. I just like memes in general.
so the question is, why do you as a cis person want to be in a trans space? that’s not to say you can or can’t be here, just something for you to think about
Are you questioning? If yes, sure, there’s plenty of space for someone trying to figure themselves out and learn.
If not, fuck off. Lurk if you absolutely must but don’t fucking interact.
depends what you mean by “join”
if confidently cis
good things to do:
- subscribe to the community and lurk only to get a better understanding of trans people
- add pronouns in your display name to make the lemmyverse better for trans people
- upvote posts and comments for visibility and support
- cis questions go in a place like !askchapo@hexbear.net where trans people will respond because this is a trans majority instance, but it’s in a space users expect to interact with cis people
don’ts
- never downvote in the comm, you do not have the prerequisites to be entitled to an opinion on trans things. hexbear will discard it anyway but it affects visibility in your home instance and maybe others
- don’t interact other than upvoting, this is a place to escape cis stuff that oversaturates almost every other space
might be missing some points
if exploring the possibility you are trans, congratulations, you are gender questioning and can comment here to help sort yourself out, make sure to use content warnings and spoilers and err on the side of using too many too often
Thank you for the explanation. I’ve probably got it.
- add pronouns in your display name to make the lemmyverse better for trans people
Would it also count if I added any symbol that I identify as male? Like “[male]” or the male gender emoji? By the way, what I meant by “join” is just following the community (UI Button). I’m bad at communicating online ☹️
nah, you’re good. and the pronouns thing is for interacting in english spaces and it’s fine to not add it if you only intend to lurk and learn and mostly interact in non-english space.
male is a fine identity, but males can use any pronouns so a male may have [they/them] pronouns and still be male, so [male] is useless to indicate what pronouns to use
do you want only [he/him]? do you mind people referring to you as [they/them] or [she/her]? if you don’t have pronouns preferences you can use [any] or [none/use name]
Just a heads up, most of your other comments in this thread are labeled as being in Portuguese. Might want to fix that, because I can’t see them on my account (had to go to a private tab) and I’m guessing that might be true for some other users too.
can also click on the rainbow star under the comment to see them (under on hexbear-ui, above on lemmy-ui)
That doesn’t work for me, for these comments. I’m guessing it really doesn’t want to show me comments in another language (but these are actually in English, so should be tagged that way).
Given you aren’t from hexbear, I assume its not just to support us in the megathread wars.
Do you know someone who is trans (like a significant other or child) and just wanting a better understanding?
Are you personally questioning?
Are you just here to gawk?
Personally, I don’t care as long as cis people remain a small minority. But a lot of people use the mega for personal stuff they would prefer cis people not to be following.
Also. Don’t say something like
I have at least one trans friend and many gay friends (mainly from climbing).
before acting like that gives you some authority to talk about trans issues. And especially don’t follow up a couple comments later saying something like
But I’ve never asked my trans friend what she thinks (so I do accept my opinion could be plain wrong).
(those quotes are from someone in transgender@lemmy.ml today, not here)
Just saw the person you are talking about, my god fuck them. Lemmy really is just reddit.
So I really do feel that way, but Seryph made a good point and idk I felt weird Having an actual cissie asking questions might make me feel weird. I already feel weird enough.
But a “cis” person
