Social context and personal intimacy? If it’s inappropriate for the environment or we just plain dont know each other?
I’m assuming the latter, in which case I typically (in general not specifically flirting) try to complement people on aesthetic choices, e.g. how they do their nails, their jewelry, complement their choice of hair color or the way it’s cut/styled.
I believe Aleph was phrasing her answer as a question, with the first part being how she judges and the second part being examples of creepy behavior.
Yeah sorry for the ambiguity, “the line” would be the social context and personal intimacy I guess.
i mean, im a bit unique in that i like initiating all romantic stuff (due to prior bad experiences), so basically just any time im not initiating it i find it creepy. like i just straight up asked my current bf if he wanted to cuddle and go on dates. i dont fuck around, and a lot of nice guys ™ are clueless and need it drawn out for them
in general its gonna vary woman to woman, if youre asking for the purpose of asking someone out give us tha deets
It’s annoying if you get drunk and start trying to get me to kiss you and being very persistent on that or maybe if you’re not drunk but you keep finding reasons to give me long drawn out hugs in the pretense of friendliness. Or alternatively if you don’t know me and just see me somewhere like the bus and keep trying to get my number. Creepy to me is intimidating, like if I reject you and you find out where I work and you keep showing up to my workplace by the time I leave trying to “hang out” and I need to find some people to leave with me so I’m not alone with you. If you know me and you want to demonstrate interest it’s fine.
I will say something a little controversial here and suggest for your own sake that you don’t look for relationship advice on this site.
I will say something a little controversial here and suggest for your own sake that you don’t look for relationship advice on this site.
I don’t think that’s controversial at all
The reason I said that is probably not the same as the reason why others here might say that.
you responded to my comment but deleted it lol what did you say? i said that people on here are kinda lame, which is why
I am gay, so any intimation from a man is uncomfortable for me to experience. But it gets upsetting when they ignore my response entirely and assume they just need to try harder. This type of guy doesn’t ever come right out and say he’s wanting to fuck me so I can’t do much about it without looking like a bitch for assuming. If I respond to your initial compliment by making a face of disgust or discomfort, excusing myself from the conversation, mentioning an LGBT event I’m involved in, saying verbally “That’s weird” - or really by doing anything other than actively reciprocating with flirting of my own, then stop. Wait to see something before you just plow ahead. Flirting is meant to be a two-way exchange, not an assault on a passive woman.
Context. If I don’t know them and they’re creeping on me it puts me in a weird position as I don’t know them or how they’ll react if I say no.
If I do know them, but feel uncomfortable, that should be obvious as I will nervously laugh a lot and try to change the subject/end the conversation. I find a lot of guys don’t understand/ won’t accept this which is never fun, to put it mildly.
If we know each other and I act creepy back then you know it’s cool.
Basically, if people seem uncomfortable, stop. If they tell you to stop, stop. It’s pretty simple most of the time. But then again human communication can be complicated.
Wait, so that time that you barfed up a half-digested mouse in front of me while maintaining eye contact, you were flirting?
