I don’t consider myself particularly interesting, but I would say my interests are vastly different from the average guy on dating apps
I don’t know how to say this without sounding pretentious, but I prefer intellectual conversation over nights at the bar or whatever. I just want to be able to share the thoughts I have floating around my head with someone, ya know? When I’m not on hexbear.net, I play guitar, draw, write and enjoy analyzing different types of media and digging into the meaning of stuff
Stream of consciousness slop, I know, but I’m super high and my thoughts are firing off. Can anyone relate or see where I’m coming from?
Tbh I find the “be yourself” advice super patronizing. Same thing with “don’t worry just keep trying” or “there are plenty of fish in the sea” kind of stuff. Reminds me of when a boomer-type or a libertarian say “it’s not the system’s fault, you just need to find the right job” or “keep pounding the pavement and you’ll eventually succeed.”
You play guitar, you draw, you have more than half a brain, you s’mow queed, you like to talk about movies and music and art… how is any of this an impediment?
You’re a catch, comrade.
There was somewhat of a “golden age” of dating apps before they figured out how to “properly” calibrate the monetization of them.
That ship sailed in like 2014 and now they are largely vectors of psychic damage.
Get involved in a handful of routine social groups and you’ll meet people organically.
Becoming romantically invved with a new lerson is one of tbr most damgerous activities some kinds of people can do. You being able to put on a societally acceptable mask and play the role of a person they should want to date is a common attempt at a first test of your viability. It doesn’t work well, but we all kinda internalized it.
