I’ve seen this a lot in my life. People who are never going to be hungry or will never end up homeless treat the prospect of giving anyone else any amount of money as if it would bankrupt them. People in your life who are poor or have been poor, will just help you
I’ve seen obvious blue collar workers hand people their own groceries they just bought on public transit without the other person even asking
I’ve never seen any of my dozens of tech friends other than the one that’s a communist ever give a homeless person any money or buy them any food when asked
I’m glad I don’t see any of the techie guys I knew from college because they all behave this way, and also have the very obnoxious belief that anyone less successful than them has earned their lot in life. I have one friend who still sees them and I laugh whenever I hear about them racking up insane bills at a restaurant, completely oblivious to how it feels for the normal people they then demand to bill split with. They even charged my friend his share of a hotel stay for a trip he had to back out of, just insane shit
I used to wait tables and we had a regular who was a prominent local retail estate agent (like, multiple billboards with her face on them prominent). Everyone hated getting sat with her because she would insist on being sat in the party room by herself or with one person she was with (I guess she was too good for a table next to another customer’s table) and you’d basically have to split your attention between two sections, neglecting your actual section that your other tables were in, inevitably leading to reduced tips from that section.
Then after like an hour and a half when she finally left she’d consistently tip one dollar. On top of being a ton of extra work, you’d generally net lose income for waiting on her.
Yeah we just need to get back to saying “no” to those types of people.
The anything to appease the rich customer who doesn’t even actually earn the company more than a regular customer mentality is so a thing of the past.
this is the way. ive got some friends ive known for like 15 years. we pay for each others shit all the time. where’s the debt stand? idk man probably $1000 one way or the other but none of us could tell you which
“It all comes out in the wash” is a common saying in my family. But our family also has a mooch/thief that everyone knows not to lend money too so that saying clearly has a boundary somewhere.
Yea I’ve made a couple comments about my high-school friend group so not to belabor the point but we had the same thing. Everybody just covered for everybody else except one asshole who one time when they weren’t around we all went around in a circle and realized the one asshole owed the group thousands of dollars collectively.
And no, it wasn’t that he was poor in fact he was one of the better off ones and of course the one that went far right and the last convo I had with him is how he has no sympathy for homeless people. This conversation happened in a city in winter where it regularly got to 10 degrees below zero before windhill.
had a friend of a friend offer me and my two friends a slice of pizza. before we could even finish bro pulled out the calculator app on his iphone 15 to determine we all needed to add him on venmo to send 94 cents each. next time i saw him he talked about taking cruise ships every summer
I am really really really really really really really bad with money and wish I had more just so I could buy things for people to make them happy
I"ve only ever wanted to make other people happy and feel bad that I don’t have the power to do so for more people
One time when I actually did work as a barista, I purchased a regular’s order for them. She got a really big smile on her face and blew me a kiss as she drove off. I really just appreciated her as a customer (and might’ve also been a simp, but I just love how joyful she seemed overall either way).
I try not to be that guy, but I have a lot of friends like this (will literally venmo charge you in the moment). It just makes the relationship feel transactional.
